Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?

Smith challenges the popular idea that perpetual happiness is achievable or even desirable. She points out several critical aspects:

Modern Concept of Happiness: Today’s society, influenced heavily by social media, often presents happiness as a constant state of joy, suggesting that deviations from this state might indicate personal failure or even a mental health issue. Such notions are misleading, as the human brain has evolved to respond to life’s challenges, not to be perpetually happy.

Dynamic Nature of Emotions: Emotions are ever-changing, akin to shifting weather patterns. They ebb and flow based on various internal and external factors. Recognizing this can help individuals accept the range of human emotions, understanding that ‘happiness’ does not mean a constant state of positivity.

Happiness and Relationships: Relationships are a crucial source of happiness, but they also come with a spectrum of emotions, including painful ones. The dynamic nature of relationships underscores the reality that moments of happiness are part of a broader emotional experience.

Value of Meaning: Many seek therapy because they feel unfulfilled, lacking direction and purpose. This feeling often stems from a disconnect between one’s daily experience and one’s core values. By identifying and reconnecting with these values, individuals can find a renewed sense of purpose and direction in life.